女人，不要用身体去留男人

一个男人，他可以不接受一个女人的爱，可是他不会拒绝这个女人的身体。也就是说，对于男人而言，情和性，是可以分离的，没有必然的纠葛。

　　女人们往往是天真的，她们想当然的以为只要一个男人还肯和她上床，还饶有兴致地和她缠绵，还会在做爱的时候表现得体贴和亢奋，那么，这个男人就是还对她有留恋，有感情，还有留住这个男人的希望。其实，事实并不是那个样子。

　　可能，大多数的男人都不会排斥女人主动的投怀送抱，倘若这个女人出于自愿肯和他们上床，那就更好不过了，他们会毫不吝惜地施展自己的床上功夫，还可能会在那样的时候有片刻的温存和承诺，会有迷离的眼神，和温柔的拥抱，表现得像个勇士，无往而不利，可是，这只是一个男人的性欲，与他内心深处的感情波澜没有任何的关系。

　　男人的感情和性欲，是分得很清楚的，他们对于自己爱的女人，重情重义，可是对于自己不爱的女人却只会玩弄和游戏，他们是绝对不会因为和某个女人发生了关系就会爱上这个女人，也不会因为继续和某个女人上床而对这个女人重新产生爱情。对于男人而言，思维更加直接，爱或者不爱，这是一个简单的问题，没有模糊，也没有犹豫。可是对于性爱，他们永远都不会放弃追求，爱一个女人，可以跟她上床，不爱一个女人的时候，也可以跟她上床。

　　女人们总会心存幻想的。妄图通过和自己喜欢的男人发生关系，而让这个男人成为自己的或者把这个即将离去的男人挽留住，这其实根本就是徒劳。如果你们还没有爱过，那么，请不要试图用自己的身体做实验，让这个男人爱上你；如果你们爱过了又不爱了，更不要试图通过再一次的温存就让这个男人回心转意，这都是妄想。

　　如果爱上了一个男人，不妨明确地告诉他，得到他一个明确的态度，不要用一种含糊不清的方式来界定你们的关系，也不要想用牺牲自己的身体来唤起这个男人的爱昵和爱情，这一招，对男人而言求之不得，对女人而言，却是徒劳无益。如果已经失去了一个男人的爱，不要去卑微的用身体迎合和唤回他的爱，就算你们依然保持着关系，你们的爱情也永远回不到从前，最终受到更多伤害的那个，永远是女人。

　　所以，女人，真的应该把自己的身体，牢牢地看好，让她远离男人的视线，这个身体，她应该在更自由和更自在的方式下，尽情舒展

太迟了，男生总是在分手后才后悔..有女朋友的必须看,也许大家都错了!!!

有女朋友的必须看,也许大家都错了...女生，是需要珍惜的。 想想当初你见到她是多麼开心，她的一频一笑都让你注意， 现在，她跟你在一起了。 女生多半会帮男朋友想， 怕他太累．怕他钱花太多，所以不敢叫他带他去吃大餐，去玩好的， 但是，你有没有注意过，当她在跟你说不用的时候，其实眼睛里还是会带有一丝期待。 也许男生会想，我都跟她那麼熟了，有些东西，节日就该免了吧， 但是虽然再熟，虽然你少去这些东西，她不会对你怎样， 但是你何不在国际周送束鲜花，在情人节制造点浪漫，圣诞节加一点惊喜， 你会发现其实女生嘴上说不在意，当她收到你的心意时，是多麼的高兴， 而不是说她已经跟你在一起了，就不用像以前在追她时那样对她，把一切都省了。女生总是不敢开口要求，总是为了男生想好多， 男孩子何不多想一些，多做一点点，你会发现，女孩子好感动，好高兴。························································································· 既然爱她，就多用一点心在她身上， 所谓的用心，不是只有把时间花在她身上， 而是要去探寻她的内心，学著去懂她， 她需要的是什麼，她想表达但没说出来的是什麼， 只要男生肯用心，将会发现， 她的一举一动，在在都在表现著她对你的爱，无可取代。 很多时候很多小事情小动作，都是有涵义在里面的， 如果你不用心，只有等到后来她离开了你， 才惋惜，才后悔。 ············································································································两个人能相爱，并不容易， 爱情，并不只是因为需要有一个人疼， 它也是一种成长，一种领悟。 当你遇到一个愿意与你心灵互相交会的女生， 一个愿意为你付出的女生， 她的快乐与幸福，就是你的责任。 女人的心，男人若不能保护， 我们就没有资格谈爱谈幸福谈…… 　　 我现在觉得……为什会常常被说木头了。 因为我总是女生开口，我才会去做什麼，有时候，这样的感觉，似乎少了什麼， 我想是一份感觉跟默契吧。

我们男生，总是在追到女生后，就会没有在追的时候认真，用心，我们总是变的自私，一昧的要更多的爱，而却把我们对她的爱，一点一滴的减少。 所以，在追到我们心仪的女生后，我们是否可以写一张纸，常常提醒我们自己，我们要更认真，更用心，尽力给她们最好的，这样，才不会辜负她们，毕竟她们是选择了我们，我们有这个责任跟义务，给她们最大的幸福， 在相处方面，我们可以细心的跟她们说，我们难以接受的地方， 哪里是我们所谓的地雷，这样，她们也会去注意，尽可能的不要去采到。 千万不要一直一昧的让自己受委屈，这样，只会让时间， 一点一点的侵蚀掉我们对她们的爱，当然，这是双方的规则， 谁都不要去触碰到，再加上双方的用心跟彼此的渐渐了解， 我想，你们会是幸福的一对儿。 有没有一双手，握住了便不轻易放手。 有没有一个肩膀，可以倚靠一辈子都有安全感。 　　 有没有一场拥抱，紧紧的让两个人再也不分开。 有没有一种约定，是相约每一个来生都要和你相遇。 有没有一段感情，深深刻在心里一辈子不会忘记。 有没有一个人，是你用尽了一生力气还舍不得将他遗忘。 天长地久，有多久，能给个时间吗?

碰到这样的“她”请好好珍惜

她其实有点懒，喜欢赖床。她其实不太乖，喜欢捣蛋。

她在陌生人面前会很安静，很冷漠，在熟人面前却很放肆，很霸道，并喜欢没形象的哈哈大笑。不要认为她很粗鲁，她只是很单纯的认为，大家打打闹闹，骂骂笑笑，表示更亲切，更不分你我。

她独立，也好强， 她宁愿忍受太多的寂寞和痛苦也不愿意向别人提起。 她也会偶尔的忧郁， 朋友问她怎么了， 她也只会说没事。

其实她只是感觉累了，她只是需要一个拥抱。

其实骨子里，渴望有一个避风港湾，让她去依靠。但她不会承认。

她必须确定那个人是否可以承受得了这一切的，承受她的撒娇、她的无理取闹，她的倔强，她的悲观，她所有的性格缺陷且永远不离不弃。

只有这样，她才放心，可以放心去继续做自己，不会害怕有一天将要面对失去。

如果没有，那么她只好继续寂寞和孤独。

她对爱情没有安全感，也不会给别人安全感。

她爱不起，更怕伤害。

她一定要对方先流露出对她有好感，她才散发她的热情。 她爱的永远是对她最好的那个，那个好她心里是有一个标准的，你的积分超过了那条线，她会爱上你，但大多数人没超过线之前就离开了，或者超过了之后没等她看到就离开了。

其实她要的并不多，她要的只是一个温暖的家。对她来说太重要了，虽然在她们口中说出来的却是:我不需要爱情。

她恋爱的时候 ，喜欢大事听男孩子的而在小事上调皮，耍赖。

不要认为她太小气，蛮不讲理， 其实在她调皮的习惯里已经为你收敛不少！

当你紧张他的异性朋友,她会一面跟你说，他只是我的谁谁谁，却一面偷偷在意你的感受。。。

她会希望现在的他是怎样怎样的，有各种各样的挑剔苛求的条件.她只不过是想要一个用努力来证明爱她的人，她不求结果，只希望你有那份心。

对她们而言,唯一具备杀伤力的只有感情， 感情如果受到挫折，会毁了她，要么成就了她。从此更加漠然，专注于事业。

她分手后完全不会像其他坐在人面前要死要活，她嬉笑怒闹,变得更加开朗.在听到朋友说有关他的话题时，从不刻意回避，她适当参与，淡然微笑，她的表现总会遭人怀疑这段感情的深浅,而人群中只有那些知道背后情节的人才看见她背后的眼泪和努力。

她不允许男孩子的背叛，如果男孩子真的办了对不起她的事，她一定会狠心的离开你。

不要怪她太绝情，她其实很爱你，但是卑微的爱情她不要， 她果断的转身只是不想让你看见她滑落的泪水！

她失恋的时候会在别人面前装的很好，大声的笑，放声的闹。 当姐妹心疼的说：“你没事吧？”她会放下她所有的骄傲，趴到姐妹怀里哭。 哭完了，苦笑一声：没想到我还会为一个男的哭。

她从来不会在情人面前大声哭泣，除非她真的崩溃了。 即使在你爱着她的时候，她也会胡思乱想让自己悲伤。 如果你看到她的眼泪，请相信这绝不是她在博取同情，这是她这样一颗内心骄傲的女子不得己的场景。 她想对你负责，对她负责，对自己的过去和未来负责，但请你不要轻易给她承诺和誓言.她很难相信. 即使她很难相信，但她还是会选择等待。 若她喜欢上你，请你不要在她的世界里消失。 她没有更多的要求，不会打扰你的生活。 她只是想静静的看着你，当你的观众，仅此而已。

她的伤初始浓烈似酒，很快就会变为一杯水，却让水渗入生活成为点点滴滴.她选择在其中淡定，在其中沉默和内伤.

她就是这样，强势,霸道,任性。。。

不会讨人欢心，死要面子，她爱朋友多过你。

她善变，最耐不住寂寞却又喜欢假惺惺的让自己一个人呆着。

有时候她又充满阳光的气息，爱笑爱说话，活蹦乱跳，可爱迷人。。

她很自私，只愿意与人同甘，不愿意让别人跟她共苦。。。

她的家庭不一定很是富裕，但她都是习惯了养尊处优。

她喜欢热闹，总会成为聚会的焦点，前提是她想。

她也享受孤独，会静坐在一个人的房间听着很伤感的音乐。

她也会一整天呆在房间里心情压抑低落,但第二天一早起来，又会轻轻松松的打理一切，慌慌忙忙的拽着大衣拎着包往外冲。

她习惯在人前表现的很坚强，一付大女子主义的模样。

她会想,遇到真正懂她爱她宠她的人,她就一定就会很安静，心甘情愿的安静下来，不烦,不闹，按时吃饭按时睡觉,按时做一切能安心和他一起做的事情.

她从不轻言爱，她的爱很沉默，那并非是因为她缺少那份勇气，在她的心里有一道栅栏， 那就是自尊。

她看得比生命更尊贵的自尊。

她会在真正爱她的人面前卸掉所有的盔甲和伪装，做个幸福的小女人，她不要求你要做什么，不会无理取闹要你陪着她，她有自己的生活，她给你空间因为她也需要空间.

她在你面前永远性感调皮，偶尔撒撒娇，跟你玩陌生人的游戏，在你的朋友 面前从来大方得体，微笑的依偎在你身边。

她不让你给她买这买那，但是心里却会为你私自买给她的礼物而暗自开心，因为女人觉得那是你的宠爱。

她在意的是你的心，你若真心，她必然实意。最起码你得表现的真心,能让她感觉得到.

终有一天,她的敏感在你的呵护下慢慢消失不见，她的倔强被你的保护软化，她的伪装在你面前被轻易识穿。。。

得到她,别骄傲,

只有懂她的人，才会得到她的好。

她有时是有些迟钝的，在感情方面，但有时很敏感,因为她在乎。。。

如果你没有绝对的真心，请别爱她，因为她最怕没安全感，害怕失去平衡。。。

这一种女孩子就以这样的方式生活着，

她有她的梦想，

她的希望。

一个如花儿般的女孩子，

她时而快乐，

时而忧伤；

时而郁闷，

时而疯狂；

时而邪恶，

时而善良；

时而脆弱，

时而坚强！

你可以说她傻，

也可以骂她笨，

也可以说她冷，

但是她们还是生活在自己的世界里，

希望做一个幸福、善良的孩子！

❤_|轉| 终于明白有多少情侣败给距离_❤

1、短信听不到语气，电话看不到表情。

其实我没生气，你当真了；我在笑呢，你看不到吧；我哭了呢，抱着手机哭倦了睡过又醒了，你在忙吗？

2、共同语言 如果两个人在一起，两个人的交往圈会融为共同的圈子，话题永远都在更新。

而不在一起的两个人，对彼此身边的环境都会因陌生而逐渐失去兴趣，慢慢的，能说的话只有空洞的‘我想你’。

我在努力找话题呢，不要回信说‘哦、嗯、好’了好吗？

3、不安全感

看了10次手机了，你还是没有回信。你在哪、和谁、在干什么？

刚刚拒绝了别人的好意，却禁不住想，你身边的莺莺燕燕，一如我身边的花花草草吗？

4、远水不救近火

我这里下雨了，来送伞的是同学的弟弟；我吃饭忘带钱了，来解围的是朋友的朋友。

原来你不吭声是因为你生病了，可我再担忧，也不能在你身边端一杯水…

5、距离产生幻觉

其实我有些小虚荣，照片有时候修掉了眼袋才给你看；其实你有些小自负，认定了的事情就以为自己一定对。

为了大老远的爱你，我拒绝接受身边一切说你不好的言论，什么都往好的方向想。你也是吧？

其实我们都不是对方想象的那样好……

6、距离产生误会

我兴冲冲地发短信给你讲刚刚的趣事，你隔了半天说‘噢’，我不知道你在忙的嘛，所以我生闷气了。

你给我发了八条短信两个电话我也没回，愤怒得嗷嗷直叫，我在做上课呢，手机调振动了的嘛。

其实我们都知道对方不是故意的，但情绪来了，总需要宣泄的。

7、善意的谎言

我碰巧和相熟的男生去看电影了，想了想，对你说和女生去的。

你独自去了我们约好要一起去的地方，犹豫再三，对我说你哪都没去。

不愿让对方多想，却因为偶尔的疏忽，让对方想得更多。

8、寂寞

一个人不寂寞，想念一个人才寂寞。

你说，来，抱抱。于是我把自己裹在被窝里，闭上眼，恩，抱抱。

一个人站在夜空下时，你会抬头看月亮吗？

9、信念坍塌

我看到身边一对一对的，男生帮女生打开水送饭，在宿舍楼下卿卿我我，周末还能一起爬山，没忍住就对在地图对角线上的你发牢骚，其实是想听你的鼓励，想听听你的安慰，你的一个电话就能让我安心。

可也许刚刚好你接到朋友异地恋分手倾诉的电话，那么容易就把自己带入了戏，无心的抱怨雪上加霜。

有时候折腾一下，只为了证明自己的重要性。

哪知脆弱基础上的高楼只须多压上一根头发的重量，也许就崩溃了。

10、你的真心

人心隔肚皮，更何况我们还隔着千山万水。

男生永远无法理解女生为什么需要浓浓的表达爱意，正如我永远不知道你为何可以那样轻轻的表明心意

❤_如果有个男朋友_❤

如果有个男朋友。。。即使一起发呆。。一起沉默。。也是一种幸福。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望他陪我压马路。。在身后默默守护。。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望一直被他牵着。。映在他温柔的眼神中。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望我们可以不在乎彼此的容颜。。用心相爱。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望他可以为我解开数学难题。。而我可以为他补习因为溜号而忽略掉的英语语法。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望他可以抱着我在麦田中旋转。。一圈。。又一圈。。

如果有个男朋友。。我想偶尔孩子气的拉着他去游乐场。。留下甜蜜的回忆。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望在我任性的时候。。他仍然宠溺的望着我。。

如果有个男朋友。。我要和他拍下许多搞怪。幸福。甜蜜的照片。。贴满墙壁。。作为我们的回忆。。

如果有个男朋友。。我会跟他在特定的温暖气氛中紧紧拥抱。。

如果有个男朋友。。我希望他可以牵我的手过马路。。无论有没有吵架。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望他可以在我撒娇时喂我吃饭。。

如果有个男朋友。。我会低声说爱他。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望他可以一直望着我。。无论我的容颜是否印上光阴的痕迹。。

如果有个男朋友。。我们要戴着情侣戒相互牵手。。情比钻坚。。

如果有个男朋友。。我要和他穿情侣装。。秀出我们的幸福。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望和他一起去旅行。。在夕阳下手牵手。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望他可以在众人的目光中送给我最具爱意的鲜花。。

如果有个男朋友。。我想我会甜腻的搂着他。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望清晨一起刷牙。。或许我会突然亲吻他。。留下洁白的泡沫。。

如果有个男朋友。。希望亲吻时可以踩在他洁白的球鞋上。。

如果有个男朋友。。我会和他在阳光下肆无忌惮的。。kiss..

如果有个男朋友。。。希望和他一起去看海。。我牵着他的手。。而他提着我的高跟鞋。。

想跟男朋友好好走下去,就请这样

1、不要只因为你在这边受了委屈就对电话那边的他大喊大叫

2、不要挂他的电话，无论你多生气。让一个男生最气愤的是莫过于让他找不到自己的女朋友

3、请永远对着他微笑，即使此时你的心情可能也不好。你永远不会了解你的微笑会给他多大的鼓励

4、请在他受伤、失败的时候找一个僻静的地方抱一抱他，把你并不宽阔的肩膀借他靠一下，把你雪白的衣袖借他擦一下鼻涕和眼泪

5、请你认认真真地去爱他，无论你多优秀，多聪明，多漂亮，家境多好，有多少人疼你，你都只有这样一个会傻傻地爱你的他

6、请试着学会他爱的运动。你可以玩得不好，可是至少你可以对他的爱好多些了解，可以在他寂寞时陪他玩上一会儿

7、请时刻保持端庄、可爱，无论他是否看得到。因为你是他的女朋友，无论走到哪里，你都代表着他的尊严的一部分；请为了他，时刻让自己变得更优秀

8、请记得每一个对他重要的日子，即使没有办法及时送上礼物，也要打个电话或者发条短信，让他知道你记得

9、请记得每次出门前带上钱包，偶尔抢着付钱，偶尔请他吃东西。爱情应该是平等的

10、请对他的每一点进步和努力肯定和鼓励，他在落魄的时候最需要你

11、当他偶尔醉酒时好好照顾他，并做醒酒的酸梅汤给他，让他晚上睡舒服，并在床头柜上备好水，醉酒了会喝很多水

12、还有最好让他知道，当有女生向他示好，会稍微吃醋，但不要不可理喻的乱吃飞醋，有别的女生喜欢他证明他优秀

13、在喝酒前500ml牛奶，这样可以让酒精少伤害胃

14、 如果他很瘦，就想办法骗他吃有营养的东西，吃饭时碰到肉全让他解决，说自己正减肥。如果他需要减肥，就陪他吃含脂肪少但美味的东西

15、 他和朋友出去的时候，不要总是打电话不让他这样不让他那样，那样会让他很不爽，让他玩高兴

16、 当他忙的时候，让他好好安心的忙，可以帮他的就帮一些；自己忙的时候，先告诉他，让他该做什么做什么去，别让他等你等的很累

17、不要评论他的亲人的过失，毕竟你选的是他，而不是他的家人

18、不要怀疑他，永远不要

19、请不要对他说谎。如果他真的爱你，他可以原谅你所有的错误，却无法原谅你的谎言

20、爱情是两个人的事情。如果他不值得你爱，那么请放手，给你们两个人追求幸福的机会；如果他值得你爱，那么，请用心去肯定他、爱他、关怀他、等待他，等到他有一天终于变成了盖世英雄，踏着七彩云来娶你

Going the Distance

I just watched the movie 'Going the distance' and i must say, it is one of the best movies that i can relate to. I'm pretty sure some of you out there that can relate to it as well, that's if you're in a long distance relationship or used to be in one.

Thing about this movie is that it exactly depicts how the relationship is and the challenges couples will face. Example, the bombardment of doubts and thoughts thrown at from friends regarding the distance that will question how much you trust your partner. Indeed it is tough, believe me. I have had those questions asked and frankly speaking, if you are not tough you will succumb to the pressure. See, everybody wants to give their 2 cents and it is actually damaging psychologically. One of the most popular question would be : " aren't you afraid? she's there and you're here". Yea, questions like these and alot more are actually spirit breakers.

Its hard having all your friends being all negative about the idea of a long distance relationship. And seriously, long distance only works if you and your partner are willing to do what it takes to make it work. This is not for those who don't have their own perspective and and susceptible to the relentless negative talk and doubt from others. Allow me if you may, to give some pointers and tips based on my experience on it.

Set Boundaries
Couples, it is important to establish boundaries for the relationship. This means laying everything down on what is acceptable and unacceptable from each other. This is crucial for knowing what is expected from each other and what is of importance in the relationship. Set boundaries between lover and friends. Learn how to equally divide attention and dont let your partner feel less important. It hurts their feelings. Also learn to draw the line between contact with an ex, this is unacceptable. Though things are over and you are friends, learn where your commitment lies. Talk to your partner about this even if its tough. If you know something is not right, make it clear of the boundary between ex's and that you are in a relationship. You have to be hard on this because one small mistake could either make or break.

Communicate
Do i need to say more? Communicate with each other as often as possible. Talk about your day, feelings and what not. Communication is the basis of interaction between couples, and it lets each other share whats on their minds. Call each other before going to bed, or first thing in the morning. Call them for no reason at all or just to say you miss them. Simple gestures like this goes a long way for a relationship. Be careful not to be too clingy by calling every 10 mins or or a 20 times in an hour. Space is needed as well.

Space
As mentioned above, space is important for a couple to still have their own 'me' time. Sometimes, its best to just let each other to their own things and not to drown them with constant questions like "what are you doing?" and stuff. Its not necessary to know every detail of the things each other do, but it is necessary to tell each other and inform early as to avoid misunderstanding or conflicts. If its one thing i've learned, do not, i repeat, DO NOT ask too much. It annoys them. Let them open up and share it to you. Do your own things, be yourself, have fun but do not go to far with it.

Trust
Long distance relationship especially, requires a lot of trust for each other. Since you both are in a different place. Trust completely and leave no room for doubt. Always assure each other, not just assuming that your partner trusts each other. Do things that earn each others trust because trust is given, not made. Of course once awhile we will be in doubt and insecure about situations that happen. Talk about it and reassure each other.

Honesty
Be honest in everything. No matter how difficult it is to say or just to avoid conflicts and arguments, you should always be honest in everything. Do not do things behind each others back. This is unfair. Unless you are planning a surprise. Leaving things unsaid creates room for doubt and suspicion. This could effect the relationship ultimately. It doesn't hurt to be honest who you're with and what are you doing. Just explain to your partner.

Intimacy
Its hard to be intimate being away. However, make the effort to be intimate either by talking or sending text msgs. Intimacy builds along the time and gradually grows. A good example would be to talk before going to bed or a text in the morning and stuff. Show your affection in any way possible. Tell them you love them and miss them. FDA (facebook display of affection) is a great tool a well.

Commitment
Commitment is important. Be committed to each other, the relationship and make the effort to work things out. Always remember, it takes 2 hands to clap. Therefore it takes 2 people to make a relationship work and not just one person doing all the job. Solves problems together and dont just bail when it gets tough.

Show appreciation
The little things you do for each other should always be appreciated. Its not the drastic things done that should. Partners want to feel appreciated and knowing that their sacrifice and efforts are all worth it. Remember, not everything evolves around you and gratitude is important.

Do things together
Make a date night if possible. Have dinner together over the webcam, watch a movie at the same time and talk about it. Stuff like that is a great way to bond even though the distance.

Give surprises
Surprise each other occasionally. like plan a visit or buy some gifts over the time so when you both meet up, you can give a surprise present to them. Be creative, think of ways to surprise each other. Dont be passive and just wait and expect something.

Be faithful and loyal
Yes, this is important. You may find yourself feeling lonely and want the attention and affection of your partner. This is where your loyalty and love for each other is put to the test. There will be people around you that will try to influence your thinking, or try to fill that gap in which your partner is not available. Its not the reason for you to flirt. Ultimately it comes down to how much you love each other. 

Be Understanding
You should know that your partner can't always be there when you need them. Be understanding of the situations. Or even if there is something that happened. Dont be quick to conclude and get all worked up. Arguments dont solve anything but instead will turn relationships sour. Talk about any disagreements or what upsets you and find a solution. Breaking up is not an answer.

Love
Needless to say, love each other unconditionally. Love them for their good and bad. Accept every flaw and short coming they have. Love them even when they make you happy or sad. Just love each other, and you'll find things will work out and be alright.

Last advice, be strong and hold on to each other. Long distance is but a phase and will not be forever. 

31 Dating Tips You Should Know..

These tips are given by a dating blogger called Erin Meanley. Get ready to take your love life to the next level!


1. If you're confused about whether a guy likes you or not, that's probably not good. Confusion in romance belongs only in romantic comedies because it suspends the plot, but suspense in real life sucks. So try not to analyze the events. The truth will reveal itself without you having to do anything.

2. Sometimes guys flirt with you or pay attention to you because it makes them feel good about themselves. (Hey, we do it, too.)

3. Even a guy who will admit that you're better looking than him should still be able to tell you you're beautiful. If he holds back in order to control the situation, or to keep you, or keep you down, he's got issues.

4. Don't help him ask you out by texting him something nice or polite. I'm glad you're more outgoing and thoughtful than he is, but he doesn't want the help.

5. Guys want to get busy more than anything. They'll say anything to close the deal.

6. It's shocking how much guys will talk about marriage. Until there's a ring on your finger, it will be better for you if you pretend you're deaf.

7. It's better not to lift a finger in the beginning.

8. In the early stages, giving him presents is too much. Generosity looks desperate to guys. You may be a great shopper and gift-wrapper; it may be his birthday and you may be wild about birthdays — even still, he'll think you're just wild about him. Too wild.

9. Guys just do not think like girls. I wish I'd had a brother. Real boys are nothing like the boys in movies.

10. They might take a decade to mature. Don't hope they'll grow up or be ready in the next six months.

11. Even if your family thinks there's going to be a marriage, don't let them spoil your guy. Yes, he's grateful you gave him your car when he moved out of NYC, but he would rather have had to work for it.

12. Learn to cook. Learn to cook well. I see now that it would have won me a lot of points. A LOT.

13. Just because he might be smarter than you or more talented at certain things doesn't mean he's your servant and won't mind doing all your homework/research/chores.

14. Guys get resentful, too.

15. You're special, unique, and important, but you're not a princess — no matter what Daddy says (although for the record, my dad calls me "Erin").

16. It's okay to say no. It's more than okay. It's always okay. If he stops calling (and many, many, many will), you're only weeding out the guys who aren't truly interested in you as a person. Time saved!

17. Playing it safe guarantees you'll have more time and energy to think about your grades or your work. Less drama in your life will always be better and healthier for you.

18. You deserve to be treated like a human being.

19. Your wants and needs are just as important as his, and if you don't express them because you think it will scare him away, then you're saying you don't count as much as he does.

20. Even sophisticated people with professional jobs can have tempers or hit you or use foul language. I've known men who dressed like diplomats but they were ugly human beings.

21. You can't force chemistry. If you like him as a friend, the attraction might grow, but if it doesn't, don't force it. And don't waste his time.

22. Ease up on the sauce. Alcohol clouds your judgment.

23. No boyfriend-girlfriend relationship starts with a 1 a.m. booty text.

24. When a guy has taken you to Applebee's five times and you say you want to treat him, he'll be psyched. But secretly he'll freak out if you take him to Ruth's Chris, even just the one teeny time. Don't try to match him one Ruth's Chris for five Applebee's. Take him out, but go to T.G.I. Friday's.

25. Women love attention. A guy needs to be pretty crazy about you in order for him to pay enough attention to make you happy long-term.

26. My mom always said, "Men don't think." I thought she meant, "They are mistaken in their thoughts." But they're just not thinking anything at all. About you. They're watching the game. That's why they haven't called.

27. There should be a medium ground between workaholism and his absolute devotion. "The knight departing for new adventures offends his lady, yet she has nothing but contempt for him if he remains at her feet" (Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 658).

28. Never underestimate the quality of "interesting." Men want someone interesting. They really do. Find some hobbies.

29. What are you hoping to gain by hooking up with this guy? If the answer is "him," that's a bad deal for you. "The woman gives herself, the man adds to himself by taking her" (de Beauvoir 659).

30. Expectations? They'll ruin every dating experience you have.

31. You will never understand men. Just try to understand yourself.